from the election to the war, from who’s coming for dinner for the holidays to should we sell our apartment and find one with a shelter on the same floor, from do we stuff the refrigerator to do we make reservations, from do we escape the country and save our kids from the army or do we prepare our kids for specific army positions? Do we keep looking for relatives in the US who can help us reacclimate, or do we try to get those relatives with Israeli citizenship to come to vote in the elections?  is it worth ironing the dress for thursday evening or just let it stay in the closet for another year until there’s something worth celebrating?