We are in the middle of the period of mourning for the loss of the temple, the loss of the homeland for the Jews almost 2000 years ago. I’m suddenly connecting these mourning days to some of the recent tv series we’ve been watching – the ones that go back and forward in time. Of course, Oren tells me, Time is not chronological. It’s all now. And we’re then.
I loved his voice, I loved that sidelong smile that would suddenly appear, but to me, he was more like a brother than an idol. I watched all his television appearances, except the one on the Steve Allen show, and loved the last one with the leather jacket most. That was the only one I thought was sexy. The first one seemed kind of antsy to me, like he was a repressed white guy. But tonight the film kind of shocked me. From our visit to Graceland almost 20 years ago I knew he was Jewish, because of the star of David on his brother’s memorial marker (that seems to have since disappeared) and on his necklaces, that he worked for Jews as a young man, and that the record company that gave him, and his fellow local singers, their first recordings, were Jewish. But I didn’t know until I looked it up a while ago that his mother was Jewish – and Elvis knew it.
The film gives proper credit to the early Black singers – even when they are not mentioned by name – Little Richard, Big Mama Thornton – but doesn’t say anything about the fact that many of the songs were written by Jews, like Jerry Leiber and Mike Stoller.
Why should I care? Am I a Jew hunter? Maybe. But when this film so closely follows on the opening of the Museum of Film Industry in Los Angeles that skipped the fact that Jews built that industry, I am beginning to feel a rewriting of history that simply erases my people. I don’t want to be erased simply because I am Jewish.
At this moment 90% of our relatives are abroad or coming or going. Of the few of our friends who are left, half are here staying with sick relatives or are sick themselves. On the other hand, we’re overrun with friends from abroad and having trouble scheduling them all separately. It turns out we have so many places to show our guests and can go out every night without repeating ourselves, and without breaking the language barrier. Restaurants, museums, parks, beaches – At this moment, I just want to stay home and watch reruns…
people always seem to get sick on fridays – when there are only skeleton crews in the hospital, very few pharmacies open in distant places, and no doctors available. But we were in the heart of Tel Aviv when our travelling kids realized they needed something against air sickness and tonight are flying out. And it was simple – the pharmacy a few blocks away was open and empty. And I was in and out in seconds. “Take a double dose,” said the pharmacist. “They’re not only going away, they’ll have to come home…. and sometimes it’s much harder to go home.”
I’ve never seen her before, and I will probably never see her again, but that quick night visit was so intimate, it really struck me. This is a girl from a village, I could hear by her accent, and she was talking about something she knows well – going home. And she knew I understood.
We usually meet our friend every week at the beach. We have a drink, go for a swim, have dinner, and have great conversations. This week the swim was great and so was the conversation. The dinner we ordered got lost for over an hour, we barely got compensated for it (free watermelon) and all I could think about was how stressed the waiter was and how unsuccessful the manager was. In retrospect, I was focussing on the wrong things – I should have been paying more attention to what my friend was thinking beyond the conversation. Now that I understood what she was worried about I can’t sleep.
Then – against my better judgement – I followed my friends to their next choice, Dissensus, which was also very informative, but too close to my heart to bear. It is about the senseless building going on all over Israel. Entire communities built without access roads, without proper facilities. How does this bother me so much? I mean it is obvious that we were all mixed up about land and housing from the beginning, not knowing where to put all the refugees from so many places, how to allot space, how to determine who wanted to kill us and who could be left alone, what was ours and what didn’t belong to us but we decided to keep – for the time being. This mess still has to be sorted out.
But we’re just continuing in the same path – instead of undoing the damage, we’re complicating it. .
As we unpack our weekly groceries, another program on television is comparing prices in Israel to groceries around the world. This is maybe the fourth program I’ve watched with one eye, and it always concludes with the evaluation that we are one-third more expensive. Why? They ask. Who is ripping us off? The farmers? The wholesalers? The importers? The supermarket chains?
I am unpacking the delivery and all the fruits and vegetables are in plastic bags that I have to unpack and discard. On each bag is a certificate of Kashrut. Okay, isn’t it obvious? We’re paying for another middleman.